
PRACTICAL NEURODIVERGENT LIFE SUPPORT
Making room for different thinkers
Divergence Life supports neurodivergent people directly, and helps workplaces and community organisations remove the barriers that make everyday life harder than it needs to be. We provide one-on-one coaching, coaching workshops, group support, training and mentoring.

HOW WE CAN HELP
Supporting people, increasing inclusion
Small changes can make a huge difference, both in how we engage with the world and how we tweak the world to engage with us. We help with both.

For individuals
Practical, affirming coaching that starts with your priorities, your circumstances and the way your brain works.

For workplaces
Help to find unnecessary friction, change everyday practice and build workplaces where different thinkers can contribute effectively.

For activity providers
Support for sport, arts, recreation and social providers who want more neurodivergent people to take part and belong.
FOR INDIVIDUALS
Support shaped around how you actually live and think
Coaching can help you understand what is creating friction, work out what matters to you and build practical ways forward without asking you to become someone else.

Neurodivergent
life support coaching
Coaching is not therapy. It starts with your priorities and is highly practical and forward-looking. You decide what a useful outcome looks like. It might include:
- Certified neurodivergence coach
- Understanding your own patterns, needs and strengths
- Planning, routines, transitions and getting started
- Communication, boundaries and asking for what you need
- Work, study, relationships and everyday decision-making
- Recovering from overload, building sustainable expectations
Coaching FAQ
What is neurodivergence coaching?
It is a collaborative and practical process for understanding what is happening in your life and finding approaches that work for you.
We might explore the interaction between your environment, nervous system, energy, sensory needs, communication, executive functioning, expectations and relationships. The aim is not to make you appear more neurotypical. It is to help you create a life, environment or way of working that is more workable and sustainable.
What could we work on?
You can bring a specific goal, a recurring problem, a decision, or simply the feeling that something is not working.
Possible areas include:
- starting, organising or completing activities;
- competing priorities and time awareness;
- transitions, uncertainty and changes of plan;
- sensory environments and regulation;
- energy, overload and recovery;
- communication and relationships;
- workplace or study challenges;
- routines, sleep preparation and daily living;
- confidence, identity and unmasking;
- boundaries and self-advocacy;
- returning to activities after burnout or disruption; and
- turning an idea or interest into a workable project.
Several areas can be explored together. Real life rarely fits neatly into one box.
What happens during a session?
A session usually begins with checking what feels most important today. We may then:
- map what is happening, using conversation or visual tools;
- identify patterns, pressures, strengths and missing supports;
- consider different interpretations or possibilities;
- choose an approach, resource or small experiment to try; and
- record anything you want to remember in a useful format.
Sessions do not need to follow this order. We can slow down, change direction or leave something unfinished when that is more useful.
What if I don't have a clear goal?
That is completely fine. Sometimes the starting point is:
- “Everything feels tangled.”
- “I keep getting stuck.”
- “I know something needs to change, but I don’t know what.”
- “The usual advice doesn’t work for me.”
Making sense of the situation can be part of the coaching rather than something you must do beforehand.
How can sessions be adapted for me?
Possible adjustments include:
- online or in-person
- camera-on or camera-off choices for online sessions;
- written questions or summaries
- chat, drawing or visual mapping alongside speech;
- additional processing time and pauses
- movement, fidgets or changing position
- advance information about the session
- shorter sections or clear time markers
- working through a special-interest lens
- identifying one small next step rather than producing a long action list
You are welcome to tell us what helps, what does not help, and when something needs to change.
Why might coaching be a good fit?
Coaching may suit you if you would like support with things such as:
- understanding your own patterns and needs
- developing practical strategies
- turning intentions into manageable actions
- navigating work, study or relationships
- making decisions
- adjusting your environment
- building a personal collection of tools and resources.
You do not need to be organised or confident before beginning coaching.
How is coaching different from therapy?
The difference is mainly about the purpose of the work, the practitioner’s role and the level of clinical support needed.
Coaching generally concentrates on understanding current situations, building skills, exploring choices and making everyday life more workable. It can include emotions, identity and past experiences where these help us understand the present, but it does not diagnose or treat mental health conditions.
Therapy is delivered by an appropriately qualified practitioner and can provide assessment or treatment for psychological distress, trauma, mental health conditions and complex emotional or relational difficulties.
When might therapy be more appropriate?
Therapy or another health service may be the better starting point if:
- distress feels intense, persistent or unmanageable;
- trauma or painful experiences need focused treatment;
- mental health symptoms are substantially disrupting daily life;
- you are concerned about self-harm, suicide or someone’s safety;
- you require diagnosis, clinical assessment or treatment; or
- taking action through coaching currently feels impossible because staying safe and getting through the day takes all your available capacity.
If something arises during coaching that appears to need a different kind of support, we will discuss it with you respectfully rather than abruptly withdrawing support.
Can I use coaching and therapy at the same time?
Yes. They can have different but complementary roles. For example, therapy may support trauma recovery or mental health treatment while coaching helps you apply practical changes in everyday life.
It is helpful for the purpose and boundaries of each relationship to remain clear. Any communication between the support team should happen only with your knowledge and agreement.
How will we know whether coaching is helping?
You decide what meaningful progress looks like. It may include achieving a visible goal, but it could also mean:
- recovering more quickly after demanding activities
- recognising overload earlier
- asking for an adjustment
- having fewer battles with a recurring task
- understanding why an approach has not worked
- making a decision with greater confidence
- abandoning an unsuitable goal
- feeling more able to work with your own needs
We can review this together and change direction when needed.
Is coaching confidential?
Before coaching begins, we will explain confidentiality, record-keeping and any legal or safety-related limits.
If an employer or another organisation is paying, we will also clarify what (if anything) they will receive. The client should know exactly what has been agreed before sessions begin.
What if I am unsure?
Before coaching begins, we will explain confidentiality, record-keeping and any legal or safety-related limits.
If an employer or another organisation is paying, we will also clarify what (if anything) they will receive. The client should know exactly what has been agreed before sessions begin.
Who is the coach?
I’m Nigel, dad of 3 teens, with a background in supporting and running (mostly) high tech companies, while also being an artist, theatre director & actor, and writer. This means I have spent much of my life working alongside a huge range of ‘different’ thinkers – artists, scientists, engineers and other highly analytical and creative people. Different ways of thinking, communicating, concentrating and solving problems have been a fun feature throughout, and were often an important part of what made people good at what they do.
I also have an ADHD diagnosis and have spent most of my life trying out different ways to make the most of the different thinking. My approach to coaching curious, practical and collaborative. I am not here to judge how well you are functioning, make you follow a predetermined programme or turn you into a more neurotypical version of yourself. We begin with what matters to you and work from there.
Neurodivergent entrepreneur coaching
Specialist coaching for neurodivergent people running or looking to start up your own business. You set both your life and business goals and we support you to get there.
- Certified neurodivergence coach
- Experienced start-up and small business support coach
- Practical business support based on your strengths
- Planning, routines and getting tasks completed
- Communication, boundaries and asking for what you need
- Recovering from overload, building sustainable expectations
Business coaching FAQ
What is neurodivergent business coaching?
It is practical, collaborative support for neurodivergent people who are running a business, developing an idea or considering working for themselves.
We look at the needs of the business and the needs of the person creating it. The aim is to develop approaches that are commercially workable without expecting you to continually override your energy, communication style or way of thinking.
Who is it for?
It is for people who identify as neurodivergent, whether formally diagnosed, self-identified or still exploring what neurodivergence means for them.
You might be:
- considering self-employment
- developing your first business idea
- running an established business
- turning a specialist interest into an income
- struggling with a particular part of the business
- reconsidering how your business currently operates
You do not need a diagnosis to take part.
Do I need to have an existing business or business plan?
No. We can work with an early idea, several competing ideas or the general wish to create a different way of working.
An early session might help you decide whether an idea is worth developing, what questions still need answering or whether running a business is the right option for you at this point. Deciding not to pursue an idea can be a useful outcome too.
What kind of things can we work on?
The work is shaped around your particular business or idea. Areas might include:
- clarifying an idea, offer or direction
- choosing between competing opportunities
- understanding who the business is intended to help
- turning complex ideas into manageable actions
- planning, prioritising and completing work
- pricing and becoming more comfortable discussing money
- developing systems that do not rely entirely on memory
- communicating with customers or collaborators
- delegation, automation and asking for help
- managing energy, uncertainty and intense periods of focus
- creating a neurodivergent-friendly workplace
- deciding what a sustainable version of success means to you
Several of these can be explored together.
How is this different from general neurodivergent coaching?
General coaching can include work, but its focus may be broader: everyday life, identity, relationships, confidence, regulation or personal goals.
Business coaching places the business or business idea at the centre. We consider commercial decisions, customers, systems, priorities and delivery alongside the way your brain works.
The boundary does not have to be rigid. Business decisions are often affected by energy, confidence, relationships and personal circumstances. If the focus moves between the person and the business, that is completely normal.
Is this business consulting or mentoring?
It has elements in common with consulting and mentoring, but it is not the same as either.
I can contribute relevant business experience, suggest frameworks, share observations and help you examine options. However, I will not arrive with a standard formula and tell you how every business should operate.
Coaching is also not therapy, accounting, legal advice or regulated financial advice. We can identify questions, prepare for conversations with specialist advisers and help you act on their advice, but we will be clear when another professional is needed.
What happens during a session?
We usually begin by deciding what would make the session useful today. That may be different from what you originally planned to discuss.
We might:
- map the idea or situation
- separate facts, assumptions, possibilities and worries
- identify where progress is getting stuck
- examine the needs of the business and your own needs
- develop several possible ways forward
- choose a manageable next step or experiment
We can use conversation, diagrams, written notes, visual maps or practical business tools.
What happens if I have lots of ideas?
That is a very common starting point.
We do not have to dismiss most of your ideas. We can first make them visible, explore how they relate to one another and consider their likely demands, value and timing.
Some ideas may combine. Some may become later projects. Others may be interesting but unsuitable as businesses. The aim is to create enough clarity to choose a direction without treating your creativity as the problem.
Will you tell me what to do?
I will offer honest observations, questions, practical suggestions and different ways of looking at the situation. Where my experience is relevant, I will share it openly rather than pretending to have no opinion.
However, the business remains yours. You decide what fits your goals, values, circumstances and tolerance for risk.
If you want more direct input at a particular moment, you can ask for it. We can distinguish between exploring through coaching and requesting a practical suggestion.
Can we work on my team / workplace as well?
Yes. A business is also an environment in which people need to communicate, understand expectations and get work done.
We might explore:
- roles and responsibilities
- clearer instructions and information
- meetings and communication
- sensory and physical environments
- flexibility and predictability
- delegation and feedback
- supporting different working styles
- reducing systems that unintentionally create unnecessary difficulty
The objective is to create a clearer, more flexible and accessible workplace for everyone.
How can sessions be adapted for me?
There is no requirement to present information in a conventional business format.
You can bring rough notes, diagrams, spreadsheets, voice notes, unfinished documents or a complicated explanation that needs untangling. We can work visually, use an interest-based metaphor, take pauses, change the pace or divide a large decision into smaller parts.
Online sessions can include camera preferences, screen sharing, shared diagrams and written chat. Any between-session actions should be realistic and adjustable rather than becoming another source of pressure.
How do we begin and how will I know if it's helping?
You can begin with a simple message. You do not need to write a formal brief. Something such as “I have a business idea but don’t know where to start” or “My business is working, but the way I am running it isn’t sustainable” is enough.
Our first conversation helps us understand what you need and whether I am a useful fit. Before coaching begins, we will clarify confidentiality, practical arrangements, professional boundaries and what you would like the work to achieve.
Progress might mean:
- making a long-delayed decision
- testing an idea without overcommitting
- reducing confusion or avoidable workload
- creating a system you can actually use
- communicating more confidently
- making the business less dependent on crisis energy
- recognising that your original goal needs to change
We will review this together. You are not locked into a goal simply because it was written down at the beginning.
Who is the coach?
I’m Nigel, dad of 3 teens, with a background in supporting and running (mostly) high tech companies, while also being an artist, theatre director & actor, and writer. This means I have spent much of my life working alongside a huge range of ‘different’ thinkers – artists, scientists, engineers and other highly analytical and creative people. Different ways of thinking, communicating, concentrating and solving problems have been a fun feature throughout, and were often an important part of what made people good at what they do.
I also have an ADHD diagnosis and have spent most of my life trying out different ways to make the most of the different thinking. My approach to coaching curious, practical and collaborative. I am not here to judge how well you are functioning, make you follow a predetermined programme or turn you into a more neurotypical version of yourself. We begin with what matters to you and work from there.
Pricing for coaching
One-on-one Coaching
Life support- Online session
- 45 minutes
- Certified neurodivergence coach
- Led by your goals and interests
- Access to support tools
- Multiple-session discounts available
One-on-one Coaching
Entrepreneur- Online session
- 50 minutes
- Certified neurodivergence coach
- Experienced start-up support mentor
- Led by your business goals
- Access to support tools
- Multiple-session discounts available
FOR WORKPLACES
Move from awareness to everyday practice
Neuroinclusive work is an operating approach that reduces avoidable friction and gives more people the conditions to contribute effectively.

Where we can help
We can review its current practices, identify high-friction points, agree realistic priorities and support implementation. The work may include facilitated conversations, workshops and training, but does not end with simple awareness.
- Understanding what neurodivergent employees actually experience
- Improving recruitment, selection and onboarding processes
- Role clarity, task design and protected focus
- Meetings, communication, feedback and team relationships
- Workspaces, flexibility and sensory conditions
- Manager confidence and timely individual support
- Development, progression and recognition of specialist contribution
FOR ACTIVITY PROVIDERS
Help more people take part, stay and belong
We work with providers of sport, arts, recreation and other social activities to make participation more accessible, enjoyable and sustainable for neurodivergent people.

Good inclusion is good activity design
People may not join in, or may stop attending because instructions are unclear, transitions are abrupt, sensory demands are high, or the social rules are left unspoken. These barriers are easy to remove and doing so increases the quality of the activity for everyone.
- Reviewing the participant journey from first enquiry onwards
- Clearer communication and preparation before sessions
- Predictable structure and supported transitions
- Sensory and environmental adjustments
- Intake, matching, support people and evaluation for dedicated groups
The State of Play
Our work within sport is informed by the State of Play programme: a practical approach written by the Divergence team covering participation, coaching quality, wellbeing and community inclusion in sport across Aotearoa.
This downloadable guide reviews the current evidence on the participation of neurodivergent people in sport, including:
- Introduction to neurodivergence
- The social model of disability
- Inclusion in sport in Aotearoa New Zealand
- International evidence - interest is not the problem
- How exclusion happens
- How some inclusive practices fall short
- The role of family and lived experience
- What good practice looks like
- A practical model for neurodivergent inclusion
OUR STARTING POINT
Inclusion is not asking people to fit unchanged systems
We meet neurodivergent people as they are, make room for different ways of participating, and work to remove barriers rather than training people to hide their differences.
- Practical rather than performative
- Led by the person, not imposed on them
- Grounded in evidence, experience and everyday reality
Tell us what you want to achieve
You do not need to know which service or support you need before getting in touch.



